Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The F word

Yup, forgiveness. It is by far way worse than the other F word. Everyone wants to be forgiven, but when it comes our turn to do the forgiving, it gets a little uncomfortable. We want debtors to forgive our debts, our significant other to forgive us for that mean thing we said, and our kids to forgive us for for losing our temper. Then all of the sudden, WHAM! Somebody hits you where it hurts. Whether someone attacks your family, your character, or even your marriage the hatred starts to brew inside you. Who do they think they are? How dare they. They hit you where it really hurts and get you at your weakest point. Immediately there is an anger stirring inside of you and your head starts to spin. You think of all the things you wish you could say, maybe you even say them.

Now what? The hardest thing to do is to forgive someone who has hurt you or your family. Forgiving someone is an action. You have to forgive actively. Does this mean that you have to become your offenders best friend? Not necessarily, but you will know that you have truly forgiven them if you are at peace. If you still have anger or bitter thoughts toward the person then the chances are you haven't forgiven them. Is your mind free? Don't give the person the satisfaction of disturbing your life. Give it to God, even if you have to do it several times a day. The end result will be a happier, blessed life. So next times someone does something against you, F them!  :)

Friday, June 10, 2011

Stay at home mom?

I am so blessed. Over the past year, thanks to my amazing husband, I have been able to stay at home and be a wife, a part time mom to one little girl, and a full time mom to another little girl. Growing up I always knew that I wanted to be a stay at home mom and teach my children the values and morals that were important to me, not relying on someone else to teach my children. When I first quit my job last April it was such a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, I felt so free. I was able to spend my pregnancy preparing for my new baby and spending some quality time with my family and friends. There is nothing more rewarding than seeing your children grow into their own little personalities and being there for every moment of their lives.I enjoy cooking, cleaning, changing diapers, doing laudry, couponing, giving baths, and all that housewife stuff, but I know that I was not put on this earth to do just that. Do you ever feel like you want to be identified as more than a mom and wife?

In the last year I have had the opportunity to explore my passions and in doing that I have learned so much about myself. What do you love to do? Do you even know? How do you want people to remember you? Do you want to have a good life, or a great life? These are questions that I ask myself all of the time. My family will always be the most important job that I have, but I know that I am capable of contributing more of myself to this world to make a difference. I want to use the gifts and talents God has given me to help other people better their own lives. I want it all. My journey begins, and I am excited to see where it takes me. Just because we are "stay at home moms" doesn't mean that is all we have to be.

Much love to all the hard working mama's, we have a big job.