Wow. Like seriously ladies. This is important! Here is what the bible says about it:
"3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
If you are not having sex with your husband, your marriage is not going to be good. God designed sex and it is crucial for having a happy and satisfied marriage. There are many excuses women come up with as far as why they aren't interested in getting between the sheets, but in my opinion they all boil down to one thing, lack of respect.
You might say you have respect for your husband, but if you are denying him of something that is rightfully his (because you willfully gave it over when you said those vows) then you are being disrespectful. The number one thing men desire is respect. Show them respect and they will show you love. Here are some ways you can show your husband respect:
1. No nagging. No dude wants another mother, they want a wife. Keeping your mouth shut instead of nagging them to death is one way of showing you respect them.
2. Allow them to be the head of the household. That means you respect their decisions, even if you don't like what they are doing. Let me tell you something, you can't change your man! The only way they will truly change is if God changes his heart. So start praying they make better decisions instead of wasting your breath harassing them. You will be amazed at what happens....I have been, in my marriage.
3. Don't deny them. Have you ever been rejected? Not a good feeling, right? Telling your husband you can't have sex with him because "I am too tired" or "I am not in the mood" or moving to other side of the couch because you don't want him to touch you and get any ideas, is rejection, and it will ruin your marriage. If he wants to do "it" you need to be a willing participant.
Without sex, you are basically roommates. I don't know about you, but I don't want a roommate. When you married that man, you gave him your body, and he gave you his. If you have lost the attraction to your husband go read my "Fake it Til You Make It" post which talks about doing what is right, and your feelings will follow your actions.
So there you have it.... If you care about your marriage, JUST DO IT!